Who the hell is #QandeelBaloch?

Was. Because she’s dead now. Murdered, now. Because you killed her.

Can I go so far as to say we killed her? It’s a bit risky. I’ve got a family that loves me, and God knows it’s only too easy to get killed in this country. Wink, wink.

Oh Lord, I’m disgusting. Did I just use a dead woman to make a joke? Sorry if it hurt your feelings – I saw it on TV so I thought it was okay.

So who was she? Some sort of ridiculous self-made celebrity, right? Said and did things that shocked the rest of us – the religious because it was disrespectful and blasphemous, the liberals because it was stupid and paindu. And she made herself famous by selling her body? Something like that, right? Damn, can’t believe I hadn’t heard of her. I was probably too busy watching Keeping Up With the Kardashians, wearing nude lip gloss, and praising Kim for “bringing back curvy women”. Or wait, maybe I was online buying my Kylie Lip Kit dupes. Whatever, clearly I was busier with more important things than stupid, Pakistani celebrities.

Let me tell you who she was. She was a woman. She was a human being. She was a soul with a body and a right to individual choice and self expression.

Let me tell you who she was. She was a woman. She was a daughter, and a friend, and a wife. Oh wait, you already know that, right? You were making jokes about it when the newspapers ran the stories – I’m sure some of them were really funny.

Let me tell you who she was. She was a woman. She was a mother. She was the sister of the man who murdered her.

So now you know who she was. Let me tell you why that’s not important.

Because she was a human.

Because she was a woman.

Because she was a joke, so I mean, we all saw it coming. She was going to end up dead anyway.

This post was written because my heart aches for every woman who does not feel safe, my heart aches for my country and my people. I feel hopeless, and insecure, and I woke up this morning with the heavy, dull feeling of failure. We have failed. I want to believe we can make our world better, can make our countries and our people better, that we can make ourselves better. Thank you for reading this.





  1. July 16, 2016 / 9:13 pm

    True…….as a society, its our norm to shun living legends as non-conforming and worship deceased legends as idols.

    The fact that she died, is a sad reality and the reason must be addressed (and for thousands of other honour killings too). Her killer must be taken to task. Media must be regulated. Our social grooming needs to be done at all levels.

    Doesn’t mean that when alive, her demeanour and behaviour was laudable, inspiring and praise-worthy.

  2. Shams_Zaman
    July 16, 2016 / 11:53 pm

    Well! I don’t have any sympathy for Mrs Qandeel Baloch. Well she was a human we all know this and actually there are humans which behave so irrationality, with stupidity and shamelessly, spreading profanity with complete impunity in a state where they mustn’t have been doing all this nonsense. Animals doesn’t behave as such. They live their natural way of life and actually its humans who could behave such irrationally and then obviously they have to face the consequences. She could have gone to west if she preferred such disgusting way if life of have respected the code of conduct which the majority follow here. She had no right here to publicly promote such profane ideology. But now she had paid the price, it should serve a lesson for others willing to promote such ideals that Pakistan is not a state where one could dance naked, spread her/his video and live peacefully. This is a proclaimed Islamic state and such nonsense mustn’t be promoted here.

  3. July 18, 2016 / 12:42 am

    wow the blog reached its market, the two thoughts on this article are so thought provoking that I’m looking for my pills.

  4. July 19, 2016 / 7:15 pm

    The sad part is that our country doesn’t provide jobs for helpless women and they end up selling their bodies for living. I don’t know if she went to hell or not but surely she left one.

  5. July 27, 2016 / 2:08 pm

    Whoever she is but we should respect humanity. She didn’t deserve the death. If someone is not even safe at home how we can expect that we can be safe outside.